on the merely positive. What I remember my mother doing was something that today I would refer to as “grounded golden feedback.“ I call it grounded because it is grounded in real data, in what other people said to her about me. I call it golden because it speaks to your emerging future self. I still remember my puzzlement and wonder about what sh…an go wrong in two ways: by overfocusing on the negative or by overfocusing on the merely positive. What I remember my mother doing was something that today I would refer to as “grounded golden feedback.“ I call it grounded because it is grounded in real data, in what other people said to her about me. I call it golden because it speaks to your emerging future self. I still remember my puzzlement and wonder about what she had been sharing at some of those small but special moments. It helped my younger self to be less negative and less judgmental of myself.
